By Abu Amina Elias for FaithinAllah.org
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful
Prophet Muhammad never struck a woman or a servant or an animal. He never beat anyone for any reason and he never hit anything unless he was defending himself in battle.
مَا ضَرَبَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ خَادِمًا لَهُ وَلَا امْرَأَةً وَلَا ضَرَبَ بِيَدِهِ شَيْئًا
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, did not strike a servant or a woman, and he never struck anything with his hand.
Source: Sahih Muslim 2328, Grade: Sahih
The Prophet warned us that Allah will retaliate on the Day of Judgment against those who wrongly beat others.
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
مَنْ ضَرَبَ ضَرْبًا اقْتُصَّ مِنْهُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ
Whoever strikes someone will receive retribution for it on the Day of Resurrection.
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 185, Grade: Hasan
Likewise, the Prophet warned us that Allah will punish those who torture others.
Hisham ibn Hakim reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُعَذِّبُ الَّذِينَ يُعَذِّبُونَ فِي الدُّنْيَا
Verily, Allah will torture those who torture people in this world.
Source: Sahih Muslim 2613, Grade: Sahih
Beating a servant and causing harm to him is a major sin. If a Muslim beats his servant, the Prophet commanded the servant to be set free.
Ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
مَنْ ضَرَبَ غُلَامًا لَهُ حَدًّا لَمْ يَأْتِهِ أَوْ لَطَمَهُ فَإِنَّ كَفَّارَتَهُ أَنْ يُعْتِقَهُ
Whoever strikes his servant without limit or slaps him, then the expiation for the sin is to emancipate him.
Source: Sahih Muslim 1657, Grade: Sahih
In the case of a wife who commits major sins, the Prophet gave permission for men to strike their wives without causing pain as a symbolic gesture intended as a last resort to correct her behavior.
Ikramah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
اضْرِبُوهُنَّ إِذَا عَصَيْنَكُمْ فِي الْمَعْرُوفِ ضَرْبًا غَيْرَ مُبَرِّحٍ
Strike them if they disobey you concerning good conduct, a striking without severity.
Source: Tafseer At-Tabari 9377, Grade: Hasan
For this reason, classical scholars placed strict limits on this and recommended a man use nothing more than a handkerchief.
Fakhr Al-Din Ar-Razi said:
أن يكون الضرب بمنديل ملفوف أو بيده ولا يضربها بالسياط ولا بالعصا
It should be a striking with a folded handkerchief or his palm, and he should not strike her with whips or clubs.
Source: Tafseer Ar-Razi 4:34
Nevertheless, the Prophet never did this himself and he criticized men who strike their wives harshly and without a just cause.
Abdullah bin Zam’ah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
بِمَ يَضْرِبُ أَحَدُكُمْ امْرَأَتَهُ ضَرْبَ الْفَحْلِ أَوْ الْعَبْدِ ثُمَّ لَعَلَّهُ يُعَانِقُهَا
How does one of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then embrace her?
Source: Sahih Bukhari 5695, Grade: Sahih
Iyas ibn Abdullah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
لَقَدْ طَافَ بِآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ نِسَاءٌ كَثِيرٌ يَشْكُونَ أَزْوَاجَهُنَّ لَيْسَ أُولَئِكَ بِخِيَارِكُمْ
Many women have come to the family of Muhammad complaining about their husbands hitting them. These men are not the best among you.
Source: Sunan Abu Dawud 2146, Grade: Sahih
Indeed, Allah has prohibited men from harming their wives as a means to correct their behavior.
وَلَا تُضَارُّوهُنَّ لِتُضَيِّقُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ
Do not harm them in order to straighten them.
Surah At-Talaq 65:6
If a Muslim man violates these strict limits and he abuses his wife, the Prophet considered this a just cause for divorce.
Yahya ibn Sa’eed reported: Habeeba bint Sahl was the wife of Thabit ibn Qais ibn Shammas and it was mentioned to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, that Thabit had struck her so she appeared at the door of the Messenger of Allah. The Prophet said him:
خُذْ مِنْهَا وَخَلِّ سَبِيلَهَا
Take your dowry and let her go.
Source: Sunan Ad-Darimi 2200, Grade: Sahih
Some people mistakenly think the Prophet abused Aisha because of her statement:
فَلَهَزَنِي فِي صَدْرِي لَهْزَةً أَوْجَعَتْنِي
He nudged me firmly on the chest.
They have mistranslated the word here to mean a beating or striking, but the word used in this tradition is lahaza which means a nudge or a light push. This type of contact was a common teaching mechanism of the Prophet, to grab the attention of his companions before delivering a lesson. After the Prophet nudged her chest, he taught her the following supplication:
يَرْحَمُ اللَّهُ الْمُسْتَقْدِمِينَ مِنَّا وَالْمُسْتَأْخِرِينَ وَإِنَّا إِنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ بِكُمْ لاَحِقُونَ
May Allah have mercy on those who have gone ahead of us and those who will come later. If Allah wills, we will join them.
Source: Sunan An-Nasa’i 2307, Grade: Sahih
This teaching mechanism is similar to how the Prophet would behave with his other companions.
Abu Dharr reported:
فَضَرَبَ بِيَدِهِ عَلَى مَنْكِبِي ثُمَّ قَالَ
The Prophet struck my chest with his hand and he said…
Source: Sahih Muslim 1825, Grade: Sahih
This “striking” is not meant to cause pain but rather to grab their attention before teaching an important lesson.
In all things, the Prophet recommended us to be kind and gentle to others, as kindness is given a special reward from Allah.
Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ وَيُعْطِي عَلَى الرِّفْقِ مَا لَا يُعْطِي عَلَى الْعُنْفِ وَمَا لَا يُعْطِي عَلَى مَا سِوَاهُ
Verily, Allah is gentle and He loves gentleness and He rewards for gentleness what is not granted for harshness. He does not reward anything else like it.
Source: Sahih Muslim 2593, Grade: Sahih
We should be especially kind and gentle with our spouses and family members, as it is a sign of Allah’s favor.
Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
إِذَا أَرَادَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ بِأَهْلِ بَيْتٍ خَيْرًا أَدْخَلَ عَلَيْهِمْ الرِّفْقَ
If Allah the Exalted intends goodness for a household, He lets gentleness come over them.
Source: Musnad Ahmad 23906, Grade: Sahih
The Prophet enjoined kindness and gentleness even for the animals and he warned us not to beat them.
Aisha reported: I was upon a camel which was misbehaving so I began to strike it. The the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
عَلَيْكِ بِالرِّفْقِ فَإِنَّ الرِّفْقَ لَا يَكُونُ فِي شَيْءٍ إِلَّا زَانَهُ وَلَا يُنْزَعُ مِنْ شَيْءٍ إِلَّا شَانَهُ
You must be gentle. Verily, gentleness is not in anything except that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything except that it disgraces it.
Source: Musnad Ahmad 24417, Grade: Sahih
For these reasons, the Prophet would not strike any person or animal. Even if we are beaten wrongly by someone, the way of the Prophet is to ask Allah to forgive our oppressors and to abandon thoughts of revenge.
Ibn Mas’ud reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
إِنَّ عَبْدًا مِنْ عِبَادِ اللَّهِ بَعَثَهُ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ إِلَى قَوْمِهِ فَكَذَّبُوهُ وَشَجُّوهُ فَجَعَلَ يَمْسَحُ الدَّمَ عَنْ جَبِينِهِ وَيَقُولُ رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِقَوْمِي فَإِنَّهُمْ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ
Verily, a servant of Allah was sent to his people and they denied him, rejected him, and made blood spill from his forehead and he said: O Lord, forgive my people for they do not know.
Source: Musnad Ahmad 4047, Grade: Sahih
Therefore, we should do our best to emulate the example of the Prophet. He never hit a woman or a servant or an animal, and he never hit anything unless he was fighting in self-defense. The Prophet would be gentle, patient, forbearing, and forgiving with his family, his wives, his servants, and even the people who abused him.
Success comes from Allah, and Allah knows best.
(Source / 09.01.2014)